Let Your Kids Make Mistakes
One of the best things you can do for yourself (and your children) is to relax. Sometimes, that’s easier said than done. Letting your kids make their own mistakes without trying to fix everything for them is a great place to start.
People learn from their mistakes. It’s how you grow and develop your character. When you let your child fail, they learn how to handle things more independently.
It might be a little stressful at first, letting them go to do their own thing. In the long run, though, you can take comfort in knowing you’re setting your kids up to be more independent and resilient adults.
Keep It Simple
Sometimes, the stress of parenting becomes overwhelming because we take on too much. It’s okay for your kids to be involved in various activities. It’s okay to bring snacks to their playgroup or volunteer your time with the PTA.
However, when you begin to pile too much on your kids and yourself, your life can start to focus more on following a rigid schedule and less on enjoying the experiences you and your kids have—both together and separately.
Learn how to say no, especially in the realm of parenting. You don’t have to agree to every commitment. Think about how much more quality time you could spend with your children if you didn’t have to check things off of your calendar every few minutes.
Instead, take the time to play with your kids. Laugh, joke around, and imagine together.
Don’t Be So Critical
The old saying goes that we’re our own worst critics. That might be especially true for parents. It’s hard to tell a parent to shoot for imperfection, but that’s exactly what you should be doing for yourself and your children.
Setting expectations too high can create a lot of pressure on your kids and on yourself. You have to realize that your life isn’t going to be perfect. Your kids aren’t going to be perfect. Letting go of some of that pressure will make every moment more enjoyable for you.
Many parents feel the need to “do it all,” but that only adds extra pressure and makes the entire experience of parenting less enjoyable. When you feel so bogged down that you can’t enjoy the ride, it’s a problem.
If you’re overwhelmed by schedules, the needs of your kids, or your own life, don’t be afraid to ask for help. People say it takes a village to raise a child, and there’s some truth to that.
Everyone needs a helping hand sometimes, and if you’re willing to accept support from people you trust, you’ll be able to enjoy spending more time with your children, rather than continually worrying about how you’ll accomplish everything.
Relaxing might seem impossible at times. But, the more you’re willing to take a step back, take a breath, and watch your kids grow, the more satisfaction you’ll find in parenthood.